Question:

 My daughter-in-law took my son's daughter said she was going to visit her family. Left the state texted him and said she want to divorce. Her second divorce, second child, second child support. He’s under the impression the MILITARY SETS how much She gets for CHILD SUPPORT ! IS THIS TRUE ?? ITS HER attorney that drew up the papers She has cleaned him out! He kept trying too keep his family together! Help Direct me so I can direct him, he doesn’t think he has any recourse! He needs a military attorney I think he has no money right now how do I get them help he’s in Virginia now, she’s in Georgia. She made him leave the Rangers, Then leave the tomb of the unknown soldier. All because she just couldn’t handle his working hard. she married a Ranger of 9 years. He gave her everything. Help he’s a good person just so messed up now! No Focus no family Can you please point me in some kind of Direction and let him know that it’s OK to fight this at this point she’ll be receiving over $1200 in child support altogether from two fathers it doesn’t seem right and she’s living at her moms house. With A college degree and going after her second college degree she’s a full-time college student has been ever since I’ve met her pretty much. Help.

Jim's Reply:

Divorce is a civilian problem that neither the VA not the DoD have any interest in. Any amounts of child support or alimony that one party may owe to the other is set in a civilian family court and those orders are enforced by the state. Our history as veterans doesn't carry any weight in a divorce or family court. Most divorces are no-fault these days and all that's left to be determined are financial obligations to ensure the welfare of any children. Once ordered to pay alimony or child support, it's best to do so in a timely way. If the order doesn't seem fair, then the case must be taken back to the court to seek modification. Child support obligations are very serious business and one can lose a lot or privileges by not staying current.
His best bet is to get current, stay current and take any problems with the amount of support back to the court.